After The Breaking
A Journey Back to Yourself
Healing & Massage in Firenze, Italy, 2021
Meet the Founder
Lina Iorgovan
Welcome here!
After The Breaking was created after my father passed away last year.
This is a space where grief and joy can coexist.
Where identity — however it speaks to you , for us, in the LGBTQ + community— is allowed to exist unapologetically.
Blending psychology, intuitive healing, mediumship, coaching, and bodywork, my work is rooted in both lived experience and emotional depth.
While I have facilitated healing work for many years, loss transformed the way I hold space — not only professionally, but humanly.
this is how it looks like, a person, a few months before she came out to the world
we have no idea when we are about to crack open, until we crack open
myself, before choosing truth before performance
in the middle of that women can feel like home, that women are HOME
a face in between pretending and cracking open
if you would have told me that i’d one day host a lesbian retreat in Colorado, I would be laughing in your face…and yet, here we are
also, this is the face of someone about to emotionally inconvenience patriarchy + mansplaining
Women and my chosen family
some women are not in the frame, because they are the frame
My ride or die, best friend, Jil Girling, here in Paris of 2023, 2 years before she became my Spirit Guide
My friend Margot(right corner), with her sister Martha(middle picture) and her Daugther Isabel, in 2019 and baby Lina ( Margot, is now like my adoptive mother:) )
Chelsea, owner of @sweetwaterboutique, in Evergreen, Colorado, where you can often find me when I host retreats in Colorado
Here in December of 2025, before we planned our first collaboration together
Beth, after I broke up a friendship and former business, in California, USA, 2024
My soul-sister, Lindsay, in Colorado, at her family home, Christmas 2025, after I lost my dad
My other ride or die, Ishy
( the face behind your emails being answered at After The Breaking, my team player, the structure - roll on of my / our ideas)
SheWolf, a different page.
The Beginning. Before After The Breaking, was born.
Women in Meditation, Bali, December 2022, SheWolf Wild Woman retreat
A few years, before After The Breaking was born, SheWolf with my business partner of that time, Madalina, has been created.
For the WILD woman within.
A supportive chapter in my journey back to myself.
Tarot Circle Workshop, SheWolf, Costa Rica, May 2023, Wild Woman Retreat
Tarot Readings, in Costa Rica, at SheWolf retreat, Wild Woman, May 2023
The Story
A Life Tapestry on
Many Continents
For me, it was where Father Figure was born.
Romania is the country where everything began. The place I learned hiding is not a solution, being a woman requires an out-loud voice, and that mansplaining and patriarchy are something that awakens the mother dragon in me. Romania, the country where my dad was born and where I rose up, free from it; we all have that country that involuntarily shapes us into who we are meant to be, gently or not.
The City That Shaped Me
Twelve years in Paris. I arrived one person and slowly became another — learning French, learning myself, learning that cities have personalities and Paris demands you find yours.
Certified in Holistic Massage — VIPASSANA MASSAGE SCHOOL
Barcelona is my soul city. I learned there not only to slow down, but also how to do fire cupping and aromatherapy massage, earning the massage certificates at one of the holistic massage centers: VIPASSANA MASSAGE SCHOOL, Barcelona, Spain. I became certified as a Praticien en Massages du Monde® — a practitioner of world massage traditions. Every culture carries its own wisdom in the body. Over the course of 1 year studies, I learned the therapist-client connection, the mind-body-soul approach, and various types of massage: Californian, intuitive, Ayurvedic and how to do my own massage products. Here I learned that massage is not only a bodywork practice but a key to holistic healing.
Colorado, Evergreen & The Rocky Mountains
One winter holiday at my friend's house in Colorado, after my dad's passing, not only gave me belonging and chosen family, but also a purpose, direction and career opportunity to serve you in ways I couldn't imagine before. Colorado, The Rocky Mountains, offer us the opportunity to witness our change in community. The key back to belonging.
A Chapter ended. Father Figure was born. The only and eldest daughter took the reins, for her and her loved ones.
Romania got another shape for me, when on June 18th, 2025, at 12:38 pm, I said goodbye for good to my own dad. Even though I knew death is merely him being in another room, a strength and courage to rise up from the ashes and be the daughter he always saw in me, took form. Grief and joy can coexist. As well as softness and Mother Dragon energy, protecting your energy and those of who you love. I see you! I am proud of you for how you're handling and handled things.
The white long open back dress, because I would not be silenced into grieving and living differently, because that's when after the breaking started, not only for me, but for all the women who were told they need to live or mourn their lives in a specific way. Respectfully no more, daddy!
The move I didn't know I needed
Moving to Germany has been the best decision of my life. Laurenburg is my home. Munich is my work. The in between is my joy. I moved probably 5 times already since I left home 15 years ago, and never could I say and declare a place is home. A place is not home, if a place does not have the feeling of home. Laurenburg has the feeling of home, until it doesn't and then I will take that feeling with me everywhere. Because home is not a place, it is a feeling, a person, a smell, a fire inside of you, transforming you from softness to dragoness in a second. From massage therapy in Munich, to online service, to a cup of coffee in the middle of nowhere in Laurenburg — that's my joy.
when daring greatly amongst monkeys and blessings,
changed the way I saw the world...
When I first landed in Bali in 2022, with my old business, still a service to women, a spiritual retreat service for wild women, I was mesmerized by the humbleness, beauty, simplicity of the locals, and how respectful they were and inclusive with Mother Nature and their Gods. Bali changes you. For sure it changed me. From Kirtan music, to barefoot and wind in my hair, to Alchemy oat cappuccino coffee, to doing readings in the middle of Ubud, to riding a bike and understanding that fear is also equivalent with letting yourself be driven by a Balinese man, on a scooter, with GoJek call, in the middle of rice fields and spoiled ass brat thoughts. I invite you to experience your version of Bali. Because once in Bali, you will always feel called to return there. Always. Hemingway said about Paris, that once you live in Paris, Paris always lives in you; well, I can say the same about Bali. Once you visit Bali, Bali always visits you, saying — come home again!
The Jungle That
Taught Me to Trust
When I first heard about PuraVida expression, and got to live for a few weeks in the magical Tamarindo and Puerto Viejo of Costa Rica, it changed my perspective of what it meant to touch the sand of such a magnetic place. Not only by energy but also by frequency. Costa Rica has that something, you will get to understand only by visiting the land. I invite you gently, to also be open in this lifetime, to go and feel Costa Rica. Not see it, but feel it. You will understand what I am saying, once you're there.
A wild experience I've got to learn —
the duality of beauty and the beast at the same place, same time.
India is a sacred land, I will go back in a blink. The land of Jaipur or Rishikesh. Exploring these 2 cities humbles you. The people. The way of living. The realization that life is so much more than breathing in the materialistic world. The life is sunset, and chai latte, and eating with your hands in an Indian restaurant, while wearing a Sari borrowed from 2 ladies you befriended 2 hours ago. India is magic. But magic shall it be with your eyes to see. I highly recommend going to India, at least once in this lifetime. It will humble you to your core.
Colorado — Where
After The Breaking Was Born
Colorado gave me the After The Breaking retreat. It gave me Evergreen. It gave me the community of women who showed up, fell apart, and found themselves again in those mountains. I will keep going back. The mountains always have more to teach. Colorado is my chosen family. Is Milo, and Linds, and Sweetwater, and wind in my hair as I drive a USA truck down the roads in Morrison, it's a group of lesbians who behind the labels society offers us, is a group of women with feelings, with joy, with sorrow, with grief, with stories, we get each other to say or share, together as a community. Is one smart woman, doing pixie haircuts, or a gentle woman feeling everything with her labrador by her side, or is a feminist raging lesbian with an LGBTQ flag saying NO MORE. Colorado. My love. Is a women's community saying no more, with words, or sign languages, with flags, or no flags, with marches down the street for a better life for themselves and their children, is a Mother Dragon that no matter where she is in this world, her flames will touch those who need it most, in protection or healing.
The Summer I said goodbye
to my daddy, Petru Iorgovan
Ally — always look forward to something. Be optimistic. Think positive. See the other side of the coin. — that's what my father always used to say, when coming with a problem to him.
I whispered — You are My Sunshine — like it was a free pass ticket to Heaven to make sure you meet grandma and you are safe from the flames of the people who didn't like you, but cursed you. The moment I touched your forehead, in that long white open back dress of mine, at your funeral, I became the Father and Mother figure I didn't know I needed. And daddy, I realized that by becoming so, I would, unconsciously give permission to other women (in, perhaps different circumstances, to become so too).
The white long open back dress, because I would not be silenced into grieving and living differently, because that's when after the breaking started, not only for me, but for all the women who were told they need to live or mourn their lives in a specific way. Respectfully no more, daddy!
I did not become a grief coach despite this loss. I became one because of it. When I sit with you, I am not sitting above you with answers. I am sitting beside you — one grieving daughter to another — and I know the terrain because I am still walking it. After The Breaking is not a brand. It is a testimony. It is what happens when you choose to keep building after the hardest thing.
Every Country Gave Me
Something to Carry
Romania
Roots. The importance of knowing where you come from — and that you can leave home and still carry it inside you.
Paris
Identity. Twelve years of becoming — learning that reinvention is not betrayal, it is the most honest thing you can do.
Bali
Surrender. That the sacred is woven through daily life, quietly, in every offering placed at dawn.
Costa Rica
Trust. That life grows relentlessly, without apology — and you are allowed to do the same. Pura Vida.
India
Humility. That healing is not always quiet or beautiful — sometimes it is loud and the most sacred thing you have ever experienced.
Colorado
Voice. That altitude creates honesty — and that when you stand somewhere vast, the truth is easier to say out loud.
Barcelona & France
The body. That the hands know things the mind doesn't — touch is its own language of healing.
Grief
That loss does not end you. What remains is the most essential, truest version of yourself.
Munich
the bridge I co created in business and love.
This Is Who I Am —
All of It
A Phoenix. A Mother Dragon. A friend. A guide. A lover. A poet. A clumsy person. Lover of cheese and classy poems. Mary Oliver. Khalil Gibran. Shapes of German. Someone who holds your hand while you go on this journey called life. Not above, nor below, but hand in hand, next to you. I am honored to hold space. Welcome here!
Lina Iorgovan 🤍